Thursday, October 15, 2009

Are You My Friend?

How do you define a friend?

Is it someone who always spends time & hang out with you? Is it someone whom you always call when you need a shoulder to cry on or if you simply need a friend to go lunch with? Is it someone who knows all your dark secrets? Is he the first person you buzz/ping after your significant other? Can you pour your heart out without filtering anything or afraid that she might judge you? Is it someone whom you’ve been together with for a long time thru thick & thin?

What are the rules if you want to be somebody’s friend?

Do you have to call him everyday? Do you have to update her with every bits of your daily life? Do you have to go shopping or see every chick flick together? Are you allowed to say “Go to hell!” or “Fuck you!” once in awhile & 5 minutes later you have coffee together? Do you need to put your mask on? Or can you stand in front of her completely nude? And if you couldn’t do all those things, are the two/three/four of you still considered as friends?

I’ve learned that best friends stab each other's back.
I’ve learned that you do have to wear a mask & watch every word that’s coming out of your mouth.
I’ve learned that jealousy is well hidden behind warm hugs.

I’ve learned that ironically, a best friend can be the one who’s most judgmental.
I’ve learned that promises are broken with a carefree smile.
I’ve learned that secrets are shared to those who are not supposed to know.
I’ve learned that you can’t be your complete self with your so-called friend.
I’ve learned that the amount of time you’ve spend together with him doesn’t have anything to do with the relationship.

Because I’ve also learned that a total stranger can become a “true” friend in a heartbeat.


6 comments:

uci said...

kalo definisi gue, teman adalah orang yang aku kenal. teman sekolah dari tk sampai kuliah, teman kerja, teman dikenalin teman, tetangga, tukang2 jualan yang aku kenal, teman dunia maya, dll. tapi memang ada kadar kedekatannya, berdasarkan kliknya kita satu sama lain :)
si klik ini emang abstrak bukan artinya harus nongkrong bareng, telp2an, curhat2an, dll. tapi semacam nyambung aja dan ini ngga bisa sepihak, harus 2 belah pihak masing2.

ohya cuma yang jadi problem selama ini dalam pertemanan adalah kalo secara live gue tidak pandai berbasa-basi hehe...

sedangkan kalau si teman ternyata dibalik itu sebel sama kita, dll. itu menurut gue hal lain lagi yang merupakan urusan si "teman" kita. karena kebanyakan kitanya sendiri juga gak pernah tau.. tapi kalo akhirnya kita tau, berusaha ngeliat aja jangan2 emang pernah punya salah.. dan memperbaikin diri. karena biar gimanapun kita ngga bisa mengatur perasaan orang lain kan.. :)

dan dari gue, kalo bisa sih berusaha bersikap sebaliknya dengan ngeliat sisi positifnya mereka dan menerima kekurangan mereka.. susah sih, tapi dalam beberapa kali mencoba jadi lebih enak sih.. hehe

btw nice thought far! :)

Dinda said...

hello stranger :D
huuuuuuuuuggggggggggggggggggg...
muah muah muah!

*sambil ngusep mata yang agak berkaca-kaca*

wullie-wullie said...

Can't agree more, Farika! Your self is your best buddy :)

soapgirlninja said...

It's so funny that come to think of it, I don't see my closest friends very often.
Yet the conversations are ever engaging and intense (and honest, if I may say).

Love this writing, by the way :)

Farika said...

@uci: "live gue tidak pandai berbasa-basi hehe..."

hahahahaha sama ciiii! maybe that's MY problem. i tend to speak out my mind and some people just can't handle it :)


@dinda: happy belated bdaaaay stranger :*

@wullie: you are not alone :D

@soapgirlninja: thx for stopping by. love your nick :)

ILIN said...

ternyata bukan cuma sayah yang tidak pandai berbasa basi,.....hehehehe