What’s Your Relationship Kryptonite?

I believe that every relationship has one thing, or more, that could turn the relationship into a ticking bomb & makes the love go weak, if not...dead. A relationship kryptonite.

Probably the most common relationship kryptonite is THE Ex lover. That one particular ex who keeps haunting you & your lover. The one who seems like he/she can’t let the two of you be in love in peace. The one who keeps calling & texting, asking totally “ngga penting” questions. And now since that god damn Facebook is around, it keeps easier for the ex to annoy you by commenting on your lover’s status or photos. I’ve “dedicated” a whole post about this one :p Read Neverending Problem Mantan if you’re interested.

After the Ex Factor, there’s a Friend Factor. I’ve blogged about this too (Karma Drama). About a “friendly” relationship of the opposite sex. A friend of mine commented on my post “Kalo kata temen gue, punya temen baru lawan jenis, di usia kita sekarang, dan jadi temen deket is bullshit!” Yet, there’s no way you can forbid your lover not to have (opp sex) friends, no? There you go. Another kryptonite :)

Then in some cases, there’s an intimacy issue. You’re into each other but as you get ‘closer’, there’s this kyrptonite. It could come in a form of bad body odor, an ugly handicap, bad habit or a sick addiction...

And what about a dark past? That can be a relationship kryptonite too, can it? You think as time goes by, you can handle or even forget his/her ugly past. But who are you kidding? Bad memory combined with suspicion are like cancer. It spreads in your every thought and it eats you alive. And at a certain point, you’ll explode and your relationship dies.

So, what? Better not to have a relationship at all and spare yourself all the sadness and depression? That’s for you to decide ;)

As for me, I’m a mostly happily married woman with the most beautiful daughter in the world. Bad things happened, yes. And sometimes there’s nothing I can do about it. But good things are happening more each day. So, I vote for relationship and try to be as far as I could from the kryptonite :D