Saturday, October 17, 2009

Neverending Problem: MANTAN

Sedikit disingkat ceritanya, temenku. Si Wati, ngebikinin account Facebook untuk suaminya, Si Budi. For some reason, Wati nge-set supaya semua notification yang masuk untuk suaminya masuk ke e-mail di Blackberry-nya dia. So, she knows everything from photo comments to messages in her hubby’s FB inbox. Nothing harmful. Her hubby seemed to enjoy facebooking.

Until one day Wati received a message. Well, actually her husband’s received it. My friend just had the chance to read it before he does :D Message itu dari mantannya Budi waktu SMA. Wati pernah ketemu & dikenalin. Tapi ya sebatas itu aja. Trus ngga pernah ada kelanjutannya karena Budi juga ngga pernah ketemu lagi. Tau darimana? Dari isi message si mantan, of course :) “Hi Budi! Kemana aja? Apa kabar?”

Dibaleslah sama Si Budi, yang ngga tau bahwa di ujung sana Wati lagi deg-degan :D One message lead to another. Si Mantan, kita sebut aja namanya Susi :D, makin rajin nge-message. Kata Wati sih yang diobrolin gitu-gitu aja. Dan yang bikin Wati sedikit lega juga tanggapan Budi yang biasa aja. FYI Susi ini menyebut dirinya dengan “aku” & nge-refer suaminya Wati dengan “Budi”. “Budi nanti ikut reuni ngga? Aku mau dateng juga”, contohnya. Nah, Wati lega bahwa suaminya ngga ikut-ikutan ber-aku-aku, yang I admit it is disturbing when your other half is one of those people. Oh and yes, Budi ikutan reuni. Dan apparently so was this chick. Wati tau karena abis reuni, Susi nge-message lagi. “Budi kemaren pulang jam berapa? Aku pulang duluan.” Sama Budi ngga dibales. Sibuk kali ya :)

Nah tapiiii...ada beberapa message-nya Susi yang langsung di-delete Wati SEBELUM dibaca sama Budi. Why? Karena menurut Wati, isinya “berbahaya” & bisa menjurus ke hal-hal yang ngga diinginkan. Kaya minta nomor teleponnya Budi, salah satunya. Untuk mengenal “lawannya”, mulailah Wati ngelacak Susi lewat FB :D “Kayanya dia bermasalah deh sama keluarganya. Ngga ada foto anak, suami. Isinya foto dugem semua sama dia pake baju-baju sexy.”, laporan Wati pagi tadi. And then she asked me if she’s being irrational & paranoid.

Hmm... Sesaat aku ngerasa bukan orang yang tepat untuk dimintain pendapat masalah mantan or jealousy. Scara di sini juga jealous-an, parnoan & bermasalah dengan hubungan suami & para mantannya :))) Takutnya ngasih komen yang subyektif & provokatif hihihih...! But I told her this:

It’s okay to feel what you’re feeling right now. It’s totally normal. You should be cautious coz we never know what’s going to happen. And many times, it’s the other woman who’s causing this commotion. While your beloved is being the best spouse you could ever wish for. But becoz of this chick, you could end up having an unnecessary fight with your beloved. Next thing you know, the thing you feared most is happening. You do have the ability to do your best to prevent the things you don’t want to happen. But deleting his messages is certainly not one of them :) If Budi happens to find out what you did, don’t you think he would be furious? Right now you have this “luxury” to know almost everything Budi is doing in his FB account. Don’t be greedy :) See what will happen from there. Insya Allah nothing will :)

My dear friend agreed. She also said, reading those messages made her love Budi even more. She immediately called Budi & asked him for a dinner date while we were chatting :) I told her funny how things in relationship work, eh... It’s sad that we have to feel treatened of losing first to appreaciate the people that we love.

Now, FYI i wrote this becoz Wati requested me to do it. She wanted your opinions about her problem. So please be kind & share your thoughts ya... On behalf of Wati, I thank you in advance :)


6 comments:

meliwluthfie said...

tanyain Wati, apa pendapat Budi mengenai temennya ini? Maksudku, tanggapan si Budi kenapa Susi jadi sering kontak dia? pelan-pelan obrolin kekhawatiran Wati mengenai sikap si Susi ini. Bukan ga mungkin, dari awalnya Budi cuek, ga mikirin, tapi kalo Susi nya smakin agresif, akan mengacaukan segala urusan.
"Melindungi suami" dari ancaman luar juga tugas istri kok :D

Neng Keke said...

Dol... Kenapa namanya musti Budi, Wati, Susi... Engga ada yang lebih nge-tren ya? :))

teeya said...

temenku malah pernah ekstrim, ngedelete foto suaminya di fb suaminya terus ngedelete2 status relationship "single" suaminya dan berhubungan langsung dengan si teman suami.

hehehehehe... not wise ya... ^_^

nine said...

emang kalo fotonya dugem semua sama baju2 sexy berarti orangnya bermasalah ya?? hahahahahahaha :D

shera BEY said...

percaya aja batas2an itu pasti ada bagi orang2 yang bertanggung jawab, remind yourself ttg awal ketemu dan menerima lamarannya as your spouse! :)

titahamid said...

untuk menjadi lebih erat, "benturan" itu diperlukan. wati terbuka aja sama suaminya. dari situ bisa ketahuan segala sesuatu daripada dipendem lama2 bisa jadi penyakit. :)