Lost.

Do you have that so-called “safe place”? You know... That certain place, hideaway, den, sanctuary, shelter, haven,... A place where you feel... Well, safe, obviously. And as a bonus it’s also a place where you always feel welcomed, missed and certainly loved. A place where you can always be yourself, say whatever you want to say, do whatever you want to do. Without ever worrying or even give a shit that somebody out there will judge or scold you? Do you have one? And do you think you need one? Better yet, does anybody need one? 

Anyways... Lately I’ve just realized that a safe place could also be a person. That certain someone who can make you enjoy the moments, together or apart. A person who makes you feel comfortable. A person who lets you be yourself completely. No judging, no pretending. A person who makes you always feel wanted and like I’ve mentioned above: loved. No. I'm not talking about a family member or a BFF aka Best-Friend-Forever. Because a family member or a BFF will always be on your side, no matter what. His or her comments and opinions are not objective. They will always be about you. But a "safe place"... That's a different thing.  

Eventhough he or she knows that you are wrong, you feel fine about it. Both of you feel okay about it. Advices and consolations will be there. But you won't feel any guilt nor shame. Because she'll never say, in Bahasa Indonesia: "Harusnya tuh kamu...." or in english: "You should've...". Nope. None. There's just listen, listen and listen. Then, only then, when you ask for advices, he'll give them to you. With nice and comforting words, calm and encouraging. And most importantly: objective. 

Well... If you do have one, don't let her go. Stay close and keep on sharing. It doesn't mean that you have to talk to each other every single day. This is also the beauty of having a safe place. Eventhough you don't communicate with each other every day, but when you do, it will be intense. It will be more than enough. It will be soothing. And if you do have one, take good care of your relationship. Because when it's broken, you will feel lost. And lonely.