Wednesday, November 25, 2015

The Best Teacher Awards

Today (almost) everybody is celebrating Teacher’s Day. In my Facebook timeline there are lots of friends who are saying or sending thank yous to their teachers. Me? I never do that because I don’t see what the big fuss is all about. But this time, I want to. In fact, I really, really want to. I want to say thank you to 2 of the best teachers I’ve ever have in my life. First I want to say thank you to:

My Mom. 

If you really knew me, you must know how much I love and admire my Mom. Not only because to me she’s the best mother in the whole universe. But she really is as a matter of fact a teacher. A very good one too. As long as I can remember, my mom has been teaching english and french almost her entire life. So it means that she dedicates her life not only to her children, but also to her students. Mom used to teach english and french at home and in big companies. But now she teaches only at home. When I was still a little girl, I used to “hang around” (read: crashing) her classes. Many times I wrote and drew stuff on the white board while Mom was busy giving lessons. Sometimes I only sat down, drawing, reading or playing while watching and listening to Mom and her students. Why? Well... I don’t know. Maybe because I didn’t have anyone else to play with?! #LOL It was fun though. Especially crashing a particular english class at home, filled with her good friends. Her students aka “Tante-Tante” are all nice and they laugh a lot. Sounded more like they were hanging out, drinking tea and coffee and enjoying snacks instead of learning a language #LOL 

And you know what?!?!? The class is still going on as we speak!! Yes! Every once a week Mom and her friends/students get together, teaching-learning english in my mom’s living room and have fun. And then once in a month when the class is over, they go out to have mie ayam or bakso in their favorite places. To me a teacher is considered to be a good one if her students are happy with the way she teaches and always looking forward to attend her class. My Mom’s english class is the best example :)

The second Best Teacher Award goes to:

My big brother. 

Eza, that’s the way I call him. He is the kind of big brother a little sister could ever wished for. Eza is caring, loving, very protective, helpful aaaaaand eventhough I’m already 39, he’s still spoiling and treating me like I’m 5yo :p I admire Eza like.... Well... There’s no words to describe my admiration to him. To me, Eza is the smartest, coolest, funniest, most handsome big brother in the whole wide world!!!!! It’s like he has answers to every question I have. Whether it’s about technology, health, science, religion, life... You name it!!! Eza knows everything!!!!! Yes!! That’s one very, very proud little sister talking! There’s a lot of things I know that I got from Eza. For example, to my bestie, Neng Keke, I’m her friend who knows a lot about technology. A techie girl so to speak. When she has problems with her phone or computer or stuff, Keke would come to me and ask me how to solve the problem. And she’s not the only one! A lot of my friends come to me and ask me about techies stuff. What they don’t know is that before I give them the answers, I ask Eza first!! HA!!! #LOL

As I mentioned before, Eza is also a very loving big brother. Not only to me, but he loves Kukka like...... Ah.... I don’t know how big his love is for my little girl. But if you see Eza’s eyes when he looks at Kukka.... The only thing you will see is love. And of course, my little girl loves and admires her Ua Eza too!!! Especially now!!! Because lately she’s been spending a lot of time with Ua Eza and learning “cool stuff” from him. Cool as in naughty!!! Like pillow fights, burping outloud, etc. Stuff that Eza used to teach me!! #LOL

So... There you go. Before this day ends, I would like to give these awards to Mom and Eza. 

Mom, there’s no single day goes by without me thanking to ALLAH for letting me have this honor to have you as my mother. I love you and only ALLAH knows how much. 

And Eza... I have no other words to say to you besides “I love you”. I will always be your “Tem Tem”. Always. 

Monday, November 23, 2015

Was wäre wenn...

...ich jetzt die Freiheit hätte, auf einen Flugzeug zu steigen... 
Welchen Land würde ich aussuchen?

...ich jetzt die Möglichkeit hätte, in einen Ort zu sein... 
Welchen Stadt würde ich auswählen? 

...ich jetzt die Chance hätte, jemanden festzuhalten... 
Wer würde ich gerne in meinem Armen haben? 

................................ Du jetzt vor mir stehst, nur Du und ich... Uns. 
Wo, warum und endlich einmal.... 


Thursday, November 19, 2015

Dear Kukka: Major Milestone

My precious Godsend, 

Today I want to tell you another story about how proud I am with you. Why? Well, there are many things that I’m proud of, of course. But there’s one particular thing, a milestone, a big one, that you’ve achieved and I want to brag about to the whole world. 

By the time you read this, maybe you’ll remember that there was a time when you and I had to spend some nights at Ua Eza and Ua Tanti’s house. Why? Well, to cut the long story short, it’s because of me and my illness. But that’s not what I want to write about now. Like I said, I want to brag about you. About your achievement. 

You, my precious, beautiful, smart girl, have been sleeping on your own, in Ua Eza’s room for 3 nights in a row now!!!! All by yourself!!! There was one night when I sat by your side and told you bedtime stories while I stroked your hair. But the other nights, all I did was hugged you as tight as I could until you said “Ouch! You’re hurting me, Bubu”, tucked you in with Sausagee the Dachshund and Creamy The Cat, showered you with lots of good night kisses and....that was it!!!! You just asked me to leave the night lamp on and the door open. And then you went to sleep!!!! Just like that!!! No tears, no whining, no sad-looking face, no drama at all!!!!!

I must tell you that I’m having mixed feelings now, baby. For sure, I’m soooooooo proud of you!! No doubt about that. But..... I’m also feel kind of sad.... In fact I’m shedding a couple of tears now as I type these words.... Why??? Well.... It’s because... It means that.... You are definitely not a baby anymore :((((( You’re getting bigger, smarter, and most of all, braver. I’ve always know that you’re a brave kid. Sometimes even too brave aka reckless. You hardly ever whine (except when you really want to play Club Penguin and I say NO). You never act like a spoiled brat. You are polite and sweet. You've never been a cry baby except when you WERE one. I don’t think I (or anybody!) will ever forget your epic way of crying when you were still that bald chubby super cute baby #LOL But now...?????? 

Oh God... You, my precious, are one brave little lady!!! And I feel soooo blessed to have you. You’re smart, you’re funny, you’re brave and you are compassionate. And I pray to ALLAH SWT. that you’re going to stay this way forever and even better. 


Wednesday, November 18, 2015

The Bright Side

Ever since I got sick a lot of people keep telling me that everything is going to be okay. That there will always be people who take care of me. That I shouldn’t be worried. And...that I should see the bright side of what is happening to me. 

Hmm.... The bright side... Where is that exactly? To which side should I look up to? The left? The right? Up? Or down? In front of me or maybe behind? 

The bright side.... Hmmm... What is the bright side of not being able to remember things? So far all I can think of is that..... I randomly can’t remember some of the bad things that happened to me. That’s good, isn’t it? Or that if there is a bad moment that I DO remember, a couple minutes, hours or days later I would forget about it again. Is that the bright side of my illness?????

I remember somebody once told me (And no, I don’t remember who it was) that maybe...that’s it! God gives me this illness because God knows that I couldn’t handle the problem so God takes away the ability to remember things out of my brain. HAHAHAHAHAHA! I’m actually laughing while I’m typing that last sentence! Really! :))) But hey! Who knows?!? Maybe that’s it, you know?!?!

A lot of my friends keep telling me that I’m a strong person. Some even say that they admire me! Why? Because they think that not everybody can handle this “situation” that I’m in as good as I can. Well, I don’t know. I don’t think I’m strong. Maybe I do look strong because there’s nothing else I can do. I can’t just sit around and weep all day. It’s happening already and the illness will not go away anyway. At least not any time soon. So.... Here I am. But yeah... Sometimes I do wonder and search for the bright side of all this drama. The first thing that popped up out of my mind is that... It turns out that...

I have a lot of friends.

Alhamdulillah I do :) Friends who I do see a lot, rarely or even not yet at all! I’m always surprised if somebody told me that he or she or they came to the hospital to visit me. That they tried to find out what was going on with me by contacting the people who are close to me or whether I got better or worse.  A lot of my friends also said that they are praying for me and that they are “on my side”. Now... What does it mean actually? Why does one have to be on my side? Of course I’m thanking everybody for that but... Why? Can you help me out here?? 

Anyways.... Another bright side that I do get from this....exciting chapter of my life is that now I know that I have a lot of new friends. Friends who "know" me from my blog :) My silent readers so to say. #wavingtoyou I didn't know that I do have a lot of readers until I received a lot of get-well-soon messages and prayers via e-mails and Comments and mentions on Twitters and so on. You said you've been following my stories from my blog and that you love my writings. Whether it's about me, my family, my friends or about....nonsense :))) 

I would like to thank you for it. I would like to thank you for being my reader, my friend and most of all, my bright side.


Monday, November 16, 2015

Baby Girl No More

I just finished putting my baby girl to sleep. Miraculously tonight it took less than 10 minutes to make her snore comfortably. All I did was just telling Kukka a couple of stories and singing some short lullabies. As I stroked her soft hair and watched her slowly close her sleepy eyes, tears began to fill my eyes. 

This girl... This sweet, cheeky and cute little girl is getting bigger and bigger everyday... And I’m having a hard time accepting it. As I stroke Kukka’s hair and covering her body with a warm blanket, I just realized how much my precious Godsend has grown up now... 

I can't believe how tall my Godsend has become... Her legs are not chunky anymore. Now they are long and lean. Kukka’s cheeks are still full but her sharp chin make them look not as chubby as they used to be... 

I started to kiss Kukka's cheeks again and again and again. And then I started to kiss her eyes, her forehead, her hair, her nose, her hands, her...everything! And my tears kept falling and falling. Oh, only God knows how much I love this sweet little girl! And only God knows how I’m so not ready for her to grow up yet... 

How do you do this? How do you prepare yourself and be ready to accept that your baby is.... Well... Not a baby anymore?! That one day she might not come to you for advices, hugs and kisses anymore. That one day she might choose to keep things to herself rather than tell you about what she wants and what she likes. Or about everything for that matter!! How does a mother do it??? When will a mother be ready for all these things to happen to her precious daughter? Or then again... 

Do I want to be ready????? 

Monday, November 09, 2015

Doc Rocksy Menjelaskan

Karena kejang makin sering, dr. Rocksy berpikir obat yang udah dikonsumsi masih kurang efektif. Awalnya ngga terlalu banyak dilaporkan kejang dan kita semua lebih concern ke memori. Malah dari hasil pertemuan terakhir ada hipotesis bahwa justru karena memori udah semakin baik, kejang justru jadi semakin sering. Karena dengan membaiknya memori, udah mulai ingat masalah yang lagi dihadapi, mikir jadi tambah macem-macem dan justru membuat jadi lebih stress. 

Target berikutnya adalah sebisa mungkin nggak ada kejang! Dan Twitching abortif ngga perlu dikhawatirkan karena listrik di otak tetap cukup stabil. 

dr. Rocksy berteori bahwa dalam 10 tahun lagi otak kita akan berevolusi. Entah gimana internet ngga bisa dianggap remeh! Keberadaannya benar-benar sangat mempengaruhi otak. Kemampuan manusia untuk bisa mengingat dan untuk berkonsentrasi akan jauh menurun. Di samping itu, sebaliknya kemampuan untuk mengolah informasi jadi jauh lebih cepat. Ke depannya, kita udah ngga punya validasi standar normal karena orang bisa jadi sangat bervariasi. Pada akhirnya semua akan dianggap normal selama ngga menganggu keseharian.  

Yang harus juga diwaspadai juga adalah penggunaan komputer dan handphone karena adanya stimulasi cahaya. Kadang-kadang terlalu terang, kadang-kadang terlalu cepat geraknya. Semua itu bisa memicu kejang. Kalau mau pakai komputer atau handphone, pengaturan brightness sebaiknya jangan terlalu terang. Hindari exposure terhadap cahaya. Pasien yang ada riwayat kejang, jangan terlalu terekspos oleh cahaya. Brightness sebaiknya distel di level setengah kurang dikit. 


Memoriku memang belum seperti yang diharapkan tapi semua (keluarga dan teman) udah bisa menerima kondisiku, which is good. Soal ke Psikolog, dari awal dr. Rocksy udah mendukung dan akan memberikan rekomendasi. 

Bedanya Psikolog dan Psikiater: Psikolog belum sampai tahap sakit, masih tahap kejiwaan dan tidak memberikan obat. Kalau sudah mengganggu kesehatan, pasien baru datang ke Psikiater. Psikiater itu dokter, Psikolog bukan.

Well... Turned out my health is not yet as good as expected. But still, I am very grateful for today... Had a very informative session with my doctor like always and of course, the highlight of the day was: 

I got to spend time with my beloved big brother #kisskiss 

Sunday, November 08, 2015

Daddy’s Girl

I probably already said it but who cares! I’m gonna say it again!!!!


And today I just prove that (once again) I’m right! So this morning Hubster, Kukka and I went for a stroll. Hubster bought Kukka a new bike, which she picked out by herself so she would be more determined to learn how to ride a bike. 

So this morning the three of us woke up earlier than we used to, Hubs got into his running outfit, me in my...strolling clothes and Kukka with her new bike. Since it was a nice weather, we decided to go out from the cluster. It was a very nice Sunday morning. A lot of people were jogging, strolling and biking. Young, old, couples, singles, kids. We were having fun but then the drama happened. 

Long story short, Kukka didn’t want to ride on her new bike anymore because she kept falling to the side. After only a couple of tries she already gave up! And it’s not even the 2-wheels one yet!!!! It happened because she was leaning either too much to the left or to the right while she was riding. And for some reason sometimes she stopped pedaling which made the bike.... Well... Stopped. I think Kukka was expecting the bike to keep on moving forward by itself or something. Hubster and I told her to keep on trying and trying and that we would be there to help her. We also tried to make the learning process fun by saying and doing sily things. But Kukka wasn’t eager enough to learn and to make it even worse, tears started to run down from her eyes. Which totally ruined the mood and the moment. 

Hubster snapped. He said something like “Kukka selalu gitu! Nggak bisa dikit, nangis. Kalo kaya gitu terus, kapan mau bisanya?!” And then he got up, carried the bike and walked back home, leaving Kukka and me behind. I knew that Hubster was as disappointed as I was. Not to mention very tired too! I totally agreed with him. This kind of attitude is one of Kukka's bad traits. She quits easily. Sometimes I think it’s because Kukka knows that somebody will always fall for her sad face and ends up helping her. But this time I was surprised. Her dad WAS really upset. I forgot how long it was but I was impressed. Hubster actually managed to be (or at least to look) angry and ignored his precious daughter for a couple of hours!! :))) Eventhough she cried under the pillows and slowly approaching him by asking questions about the game he was playing. When they finally making skin contact (Kukka leaning on Bapa’s body, watching and commenting about the game), I was giving Hubster signs. Yes! I gave him signs NOT TO GIVE UP TOO EASILY to his little girl’s approach!!!! I could totally see it in his eyes that he was about to give up to that cute face. Not to mention the super sweet little voice. The way she says “Bapa...” Well... Yeah... Just like that, after making new promises and deals, Kukka ended up sitting on her beloved Bapa’s lap, sharing hugs and kisses. Totally predictable :))) #Buburollingeyes #Bubuyawning #Meh

Hours later Hubster came to me and made a confession. Yes, he was actually wondering whether he was being too hard on Kukka. He was thinking something like: 

“Apa aku terlalu keras ya... Sebenernya kan dia cuma mau having fun...”  

Dads and daughters. 
SiBapa and SiBuhat. 

#MAJORMEH :))))))